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Connie Grigsby


Connie Grigsby

In retrospect, it’s plain to see that Connie Grigsby was destined to be a writer. As a fifth grader in the tiny town of Elgin, Oklahoma, she was already churning out novels; but in the economy of her “farm girl” upbringing, practical skills held more value than the written word, so she set her writing abilities on the backburner. While earning her degree in Occupational Therapy from the University of Oklahoma, she met her husband, Wes, who was studying medicine. The couple married in 1980, and they quickly discovered that being married was more difficult than they had anticipated --- a topic which eventually fueled her writing career.

Connie worked very hard on her marriage relationship for four long years. Then she gave birth to twin girls and discovered that they loved her much more unconditionally than Wes ever had. Before long, the relationship between Connie and Wes turned cold and distant. The couple plodded along and had a third daughter.

Connie’s life took a surprising turn the day she made a seemingly inconsequential decision. “I was going to go to the pastor’s wife’s class on teens, but decided to attend the wives’ class, taught by Nancy Cobb, instead,” she remembers. “I learned all about God’s plan for me in my marriage. A month into the class, I woke up in the middle of the night and prayed, ‘Lord, I don’t even know what I’m doing, but you do. Will you help me?’ I determined I had missed so much by living life my own way. I discovered that God wanted an intimate, personal relationship with me on a daily basis. I began to change and, as often happens, my husband began to soften as well.  It was like watching 1 Peter 3 come to life before my very eyes.”

Connie was finally able to employ her latent writing talents when Nancy Cobb asked her to collaborate on their first book, IS THERE MOOSE IN YOUT MARRIAGE? This book was a finalist for the ECPA Gold Medallion Award in 2001 and was renamed, reformatted, and re-released as THE POLITICALLY INCORRECT WIFE in 2003. Their second book, HOW TO GET YOUR HUSBAND TO LISTEN TO YOU was a finalist for The Books for a Better Life Award and was on the ECPA bestseller list for several months. Their third book, THE BEST THING I EVER DID FOR MY MARRIAGE, was released in August 2003. In addition, Connie authored HOW TO GET YOUR TEEN TO TALK TO YOU. The pair’s newest book, HOW TO GET YOUR HUSBAND TO LISTEN TO YOU: Uncovering How Men Communicate, will be released in January 2008 by WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group, a division of Random House. Connie’s style --- humorous, insightful, and unpretentious --- reflects her desire to craft user-friendly books that can capture a secular audience with God’s truth.

Nancy and Connie have taught a class on marriage called “The Wife Class” for 10 years which has been attended by hundreds of women. They have been repeat guests on "Family Life Today" with Dennis Rainey and "Revive Our Hearts" with Nancy Leigh DeMoss and have appeared on "The 700 Club". In addition, Nancy and Connie have a regular program, "Lifewalk", every week on KGBI, one of Omaha, Nebraska’s Christian radio stations.

Wes and Connie have three grown daughters and reside in Omaha, where Wes has just been appointed Chief of Staff at Creighton University Medical Center. Connie enjoys playing tennis, spending time with her family and friends, and eating other people’s cooking. She can frequently be found driving the golf cart for Wes, an avid golfer and devoted Starbucks customer.

Connie Grigsby